Of My Life's Truths
On my birthday, I'm thankful for all of my experiences. I've slept on floors and scraped together cash just to eat, I've lived abroad, I've loved, I've lost people close to me, I've been knocked down more times that I can count, I've pulled myself back up.
I HAVE LIVED.
And so, on my 31st, I've cobbled together a few of my learnings along the way. These are by no means instructional; you'll identify with some, you'll disagree with others. Rummage through, create your own, and share them with me. These are the 31 things I know to be true.
There really is no replacement for Heinz brand ketchup.
"It's not how good you are, it's how good you want to be."
No one can make you feel more special than your mom. (Shout out, RD!)
Coffee and bacon are signs that God is really real.
The single-most determining factor in my 'success' is that I've shown up. Every day.
Though I consider myself bi-racial, society, generally, finds it more convenient to consider me just black.
People never forget how you make them feel.
Every family has "issues." Don't give up on your family.
Oprah was right when she said "there are no wrong paths. There is no such thing as failure...[because] your life is bigger than any one experience. When you're on a detour...get still, and ask yourself what is the next right move, and the next right move." 11.
Drinks and drugs are fun, but nothing beats waking up sober on a Saturday morning.
To me, the slowly built business is more satisfying than the hockey stick business.
Always think "confetti-filled tire; so if there's a blow out, it's still an OK day."
Taking criticism from people can burn. Take full, long breaths, listen, and parse out the nugget of learning.
We care more about people being gay, or trans, black, or white than we care about people just being fucking kind.
In our social-media driven world, "optics" - perception vs. reality - have never fooled more people.
Nothing hurts more than a broken heart.
You really can manifest your destiny. If you see it - like, truly, truly, see it - it will happen.
Paying for health insurance is overrated. *Knocks on wood 85 times*
Don't envy the rich kids. They're often fighting a different battle.
One by U2 & Mary J. Blige is better than U2's original.
Some people do yoga, some people meditate, I run. There is one exercise that'll put your mind at ease. Find it, and practice.
NYC > LA.
Anything and everything you email, gchat, sext, or otherwise write down digitally can be used against you. (To be clear, I've never sexted.)
Every one of us emits energy. Only we can control what we're puttin' out there.
Time, like race, is a construct. Don't hold yourself to doing things, say, "in a month" because a month isn't exactly real. Take as long as you need until the final result is great.
Work hard enough at your side-hustle and it'll become your #1 hustle.
If your gut tells you to say something, don't think. Spit it out.
The key to avoiding any hangover = one pint beer to one pint water. Or, simply, Pedialyte.
Having a handful of close friends is more valuable than having millions of fans.
This is my year of stardom.
PostedSep 28, 2015